About Paying It Forward

About Our Founder

Tamye Diaferio-Longoria, founder of Paying it Forward NWI, is a lifelong Chicagoland resident and knows firsthand what it's like to need to rely on the community to help "Pay it Forward".

Life was rough right from the beginning: Tamye's mother had severe mental health issues and decided it was best to give her up as a baby to live with her godmother. However at the early age of five, she found herself involved in an emotional custody battle between her mother and the godmother she'd come to know as family. Her godmother won and this case set the precedent in the state of Illinois for non biological individuals to become legal guardians. This was a huge win that allowed Tamye to grow up safely - she's been changing lives since she was a child!

The tribulations didn't end there though. Tamye is the definition of a survivor in adulthood as well; having lived through domestic violence, homelessness and chronic illnesses - and knows what it's like to need a shoulder to lean on. She is empathetic and kindhearted, having been through her own rollercoaster of life, as well as beyond generous; the type of person who would literally give you the shirt off her own back.

She was helping so many people in her community one off, that back in July 2013, she realized she could no longer do it alone and needed to scale her endeavors. She created Paying It Forward: a charity to help connect locals who are struggling with locals who want to help.

This started a movement and has only continued to grow. She and her team have been able to help supply thousands of local families over the years with basic necessities, safe havens and a helping hand.

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Our History

Thousands of volunteers, donors and community members have helped Paying It Forward thrive over the years. We established in July 2013 as a small, social media-based community help group. Over the years, we banded together as neighbors and have been able to help tens of thousands of people through our local outreach programs. Seeing a need for energetic, nonprofit work in the IL and NWI area, we formed our organization to provide solutions that give back to locals. We've consistently grown since then, all thanks to the helping hands of this amazing community!

To showcase some of our recent growth, Paying It Forward opened a nonprofit office in June of 2021, followed by our community resource center in October of 2023. New parents in need of things like diapers and other baby items, as well as folks needing basic necessities like toiletries, are able to stop in for assistance. Our resource center allows people to build resumes and apply for jobs, apply to financial assistance programs and receive guidance on other things for which they may be eligible . Donations are accepted to help fund our many programs, with 100% of the proceeds going right back to the people.

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Our Board of Directors

Paying it Forward is striving to do even bigger and better things now that we’ve reached our ten-year anniversary. Our newly appointed all-female board has a goal to help our community with the challenges they face within East Chicago and beyond. Every board member started as a dedicated volunteer, going above and beyond and assisting with event after event. We know that they, along with our founder and CEO, will allow Paying it Forward to thrive!

Ashley Heckler, from Valparaiso, IN, originally got involved with Paying it Forward by chance! Years ago she saw a post in a Facebook group and thought it’d be nice to help out a couple of children for Christmas. Over the years she has gone from being an occasional volunteer to becoming COO of the organization. Her focus in this role is on operational excellence, resource management and cross-functional collaboration. She finds joy in being able to help those who are less fortunate, but also loves being able to inspire others. She is very much a doer and a planner and we wouldn’t be where we are today without Ashley’s help over the years!

Cindy Montejano, from Gary, Indiana, has been involved with Paying it Forward for many years now! Despite being a mother to TEN children — yes, you read that right! — she always makes time to help out the community. She has gone from avid volunteer to our Bilingual Director of Community Outreach. Her focus in this role is on fostering relationships with local organizations and engaging and educating the community about what we do. She wants to show her children by doing, not just saying, how important it is to lend a hand to those in need. Whether she shows up to help out at the store, runs across state lines to pick up donations or helps organize the minute details of an upcoming event, we can always count on her to show up!

Amanda Wolfe, from Chicago, IL, has been helping Paying it Forward for years now! Amanda’s parents were addicts and she grew up in poverty. What started as monthly volunteering turned into her utilizing her personal finance expertise and becoming our CFO. Her focus in this role is managing the financial operations and ensuring the organization’s financial health, integrity and sustainability. Since she knows firsthand what it’s like to go without basic necessities, she has always felt it important to help those less fortunate. The birthday boxes and Christmas events are Amanda’s favorite way to give back because she knows what even a small present can mean to a kid. She helps corral donors and volunteers whenever we need. She’s always looking for ways to make an impact and we appreciate all she has done for us!

Benita White Arnold, from East Chicago, IN, first helped Paying it Forward through our Warm Hearts Community Meals. She has always had an unwavering commitment to serving others, so it’s no surprise that this was how she got involved. With her near lifelong experience as a dedicated community advocate, we are fortunate to have her as the Director of PR. Her focus in this role is fundraising, broadening our social impact and increasing awareness of our organization. This role and organization is deeply important to her as she herself, as well as her children, were born and raised in East Chicago, IN. She is dedicated to creating a brighter future for all and we feel incredibly lucky to have the privilege of working alongside her.

Donna Lucero, from East Chicago, IL, has been helping Paying it Forward for many years now. She finds immense joy in being able to give back to the very community she has been working in since age 14! We are grateful that despite being retired, she has taken on the role as our Bilingual Director of Community Engagement. Her focus in this role is rallying volunteer support for events, as well as developing initiatives to engage the community in ways they most need support. She knows that too many children and adults fall through the cracks and need a helping hand — after all, you don’t know what you don’t know. She finds happiness in seeing people from her very own neighborhood being grateful for help and experiences that she was able to spearhead. She has a big heart and we’re so glad she joined us!

From the Community

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In the News

How Far We’ve Come: 10 Years of Paying It Forward

Making a Difference in East Chicago IN

Paying It Forward opened a nonprofit office and pop up store to help the community in June 2021 in the East Chicago/IN area.

It's a Pop Up Christmas Surprise for the community

Paying It Forward turns their store into a pop up Christmas Surprise for the children in the IL and IN area. Complete with free Santa pictures and gifts.

Paying It Forward spreads Christmas magic to those who need a little cheer

CBS Chicago's own Marissa Parra shares how Paying It Forward is living up to their name this holiday season.

Paying It Forward Angel Tree

Jerry Davich writes about the impact our angel tree has on the community and one local recipient that does not qualify for other angel trees.